Comments on: Random things

By: Shane

Shane — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 02:44:49 +0000

I’m not really sure if they still enjoy hanging out or not, in fact I can’t recall a time since then that they have not brought their wives out with them. But I guess if that is ‘happiness’ to them, then I’ll be happy for them that they’ve each found their meant-to-be’s.

I totally understand what you are saying though and that does make sense :)

By: monkeybaybe

monkeybaybe — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 22:15:13 +0000

I would argue that the women actually didn’t change their husbands. I don’t know them, but it sounds more like the wives are just controlling their husbands’ doings. I would like to know whether the husbands would still enjoy hanging out with their old friends regardless of the wife’s wishes. I think to have true change occur, the person who will be changing needs to be the one who wants it. If someone I loved wanted me to change then that would be something for to consider carefully, but I don’t think I’d change unless I wanted it too. Do you understand what I’m trying to say? I’m not denying that someone can change, I’m saying that I don’t believe that one person can change another person without that 2nd person wanting it too.

By: Shane

Shane — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 04:04:29 +0000

I have a few friends that within the last year or so found the need to meet someone and jump into getting married seriously within months of meeting. They’ll argue w/ me that they “knew” them for a few years, but IMO you should date for a few years first, not just be able to attach a name and a face together. But anyways, the women have successfully changed them though…they are no longer really allowed to hang out w/ their old friends unless they turn it into a “couples” thing. Which in that case, count me out because as a single guy, that is soo awkward!

And for what it’s worth, your posts don’t make me think badly of you at all!

Take care!